I read something today where the writer stated “All I need are the right rules and victory would be mine.”
That got me wondering about how that related to life in general. How often do we live our lives by other people’s rules and as a consequence are unhappy, feeling like we have lost out? This tied in with something else I had previously read by an economist about “herd economics” and how there is a tendency to position ourselves relative to the rest of the group (society) i.e., keeping up with the Joneses (KUWJ). Basically he proposed that we are all happy enough individually but when we compare our “position in the herd” we can become dis-satisfied and start wanting more. The economist provided an example of people paying exorbitant prices for houses (KUWJ). I’d include people who live in certain suburbs for the prestige/ so they can send their children to the “right” schools; designer clothes; brand cars (e.g., BMW, Mercs, etc.) and etc………….. I’m sure you get the idea.
So, that was how I got to thinking about how we can be happier by making our own rules for our lives – a sort of designer life – one that is tailor made just for you. Now, how exclusive would that be?
“Our minds are as different as our faces: we are all travelling to one destination; –happiness; but few are going by the same road.”
Charles Caleb Colton
Just imagine what it would be like to live a life made especially for YOU – it would be unique, your very own life that no-one else has, made to your own specifications. You decide what you want. If you are in a relationship and/or have a family, it will be designed for the relationship/family, where you all get together and make up the rules (yes, include the children – it’s amazing what they come up with)
There is so much in this world to experience and so many of us that there is really no right or wrong way for YOUR designer life.
What do you want your life to look like?
Where will you be living?
How often do you want to travel?
Where in the world do you want to experience?
Who do you want to experience it with?
What books do you want to read?
What else do you want to see, hear and feel?
How much more time do you want with your family/friends/loved ones?
What would you like to do more of with them?
If you had a bank that credited your account each morning with $86,400 – with no balance carried from day to day – what would you do? Well, you do have such a bank and it’s called……time.
Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it rules off as “lost” whatever you have failed to use. It carries over no balances and allows no overdrafts. You can’t hoard it, save it, store it, loan it or invest it. You can only use it – time.
So, I am interested to know – how will you design your life to make the best use of that 86,400 seconds to live your life as you want?
- Sara Weinstock: The Time of Your Life (stylelist.com)