From Plastic to Prada: what will your superannuation fund support?

We all know what the statistics tell us; that the lifespan for women is greater than that for men, with many of us expected to live into our late 80s and beyond.  I was looking at the death notices in the SMH yesterday and found a lot were for people who were over 80.  This is an age group who, when they were born, did not have a life expectancy much beyond 70 or 75.  So, if that age group is living well into their 80s, what about those of us now in our 40s and 50s?  I think that we can expect to live well into the 90s and beyond.

The majority of women, especially those over 48 and single, will not have enough money when they retire to support themselves comfortably and will have to resort to a government payment.  Currently, the average superannuation payout for women is a third of the payout for men. 

Do you know how much you have in your super account?  I had a look at mine a few months ago and have less than my current gross yearly income.  Hmmmmm…I’m going to have to do something about that. 

So if you are already over 48, where does that leave you?  Are you planning on relying on the age pension as your main source of income?  Did you know that if you were born after January 1957, you cannot access that payment until you are 67?

As it stands now, the payment for a single person on the aged pension is $712 a fortnight with an additional allowance of a pension supplement amount of $60.60 that is “paid as part of certain regular fortnightly income-support payments to help eligible people meet the costs of daily household and living expenses, including phone, internet, utilities and pharmaceutical costs”. This information is from the current Centrelink website dated 04/12/12.

Do you know how Centrelink describes the age pension?

“An income support payment that helps give older people a sufficient standard of living in retirement.”  The bold and italics are my emphasis – “sufficient”?  Are they serious?  Who are they kidding? 

Well, I don’t know about you but that wouldn’t even cover my rent.  The maximum amount of rent assistance for a single person is $121 per fortnight. So if you were eligible for the maximum of everything you could get the sum of $893.60. If you owned your home outright you would still have to maintain your home and pay council rates etc. and you would only get the max. of $772.60.  There is provision to be able to have some income from other sources but the limit before it affects the payment is not much. 

Why are we in this position? The main reason is that for those of us who have children, we spent time out of the paid workforce, then working part-time or casual, and in jobs where the pay was lower than traditional male jobs.  In addition, women are generally the ones who provide unpaid care for older family members who are experiencing ill-health, or age related problems, and may have to take time off work to do that.

So, that brings me to the headline of this blog – I don’t want to be a bag lady and I’d rather have Prada than plastic (bag) -  well…that is a slight exaggeration – my latest purchase is a handmade fabric Fairtrade bag I got at the markets, but you know what I mean :)

My goal is to have the money I need to live the lifestyle I want, and stay away from the age pension.  I want freedom and choices in my life, including where I live, where I holiday, access to health and dental care on my terms without having to submit to the public waiting list etc, etc,.  What about you?   How do you want the rest of your life to be?

P.S – your next move?  Find your super account statements and check how much you have.

Happy Mother’s Day and lifestyle design

I have been very quiet of late in regards to writing.  The reason is that I am in the process of changing from a business offering just straight life coaching to something else.  I have done a lot of thinking about what I want and how I want it all to work and so have been working my way through some home study business programmes.  Anyway, I have tried to do it all myself and realised that I need to be with people who understand what I am doing and can support me and I can also support them so I even signed up to attend a 3 day seminar in June in an effort to really fine tune my niche and network my butt off – well…………it’s on the Gold Coast and I have rewarded myself by booking the final night at the Sea Temple !!!  

In the mean time, the past few weeks I have been able to spend time with the grandchildren:

It’s tiring being a cute baby

A teen who thinks knickers can be a substitute for a beanie

A child who also doesn’t know which part of her body corresponds to which item of clothing

Yes, apples grow on trees – they don’t already come in buckets at the farmers’ markets…….. carrying a handbag, false nails and wearing bangles can make picking a bit tricky too.

I have also watched amazing sunrises

watched a bit of surfing,

other people torturing themselves crawling in the sand

did some yoga and just chilled out in the mornings…..and no, I’m not going to post a pic of my in downward dog position :)

My purpose for creating a lifestyle working from home or wherever I wish?  More of all of the above …………oh yeah – something else……………travel, learning languages and having lots of different experiences  :)  ………although I can do without being held up at a traffic accident in the rain in the mountains while I am busting to go to the loo

What’s your ideal lifestyle design?  I’d love to hear about it.

 

 

 

Life balance: know when to quit

Now for something a bit different – not what you were expecting I bet!

Sometimes it’s better to give it a rest

If you want to know what I mean you will have to click on the link or copy and paste it into your browser.  I’d love to hear what you think. 

http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/02/when_to_give_up_on_your_goals.html.

The Most Important Things in Life

I came across this earlier today. The question asked was “What are the most important things in life?”  Many of the answers were the same, the most popular ones I have highlighted in colours

Ethics.

Family and friends

Happiness

Living my life and not the life of others around me

Integrity and character.

Liberation

God

Relationships.

Harmony.

My relationship with Jesus Christ

Awareness.

The freedom of choice.

LOVE

Know who you are.
Know what you want and why.

Friends, especially those who become “chosen family.”

Having a dream and heading toward it.

Health

Passion and intensity

Peace of Mind.

Surf Life, Don’t Control It. Enjoy.

Gratitude as an attitude.

1. Breathe in
2. Breathe out
(Repeat)
;-)

Learning, growing and having meaningful relationships.

Doing what is right (a.k.a. living my life according to my ethics, principles, and beliefs).

*yourself
*attitude

Spirituality

Peace

Being sincere in all my relationships and dealings with people and doing things for others without any ulterior motives

The most important thing according to me is to live life to its fullest.

Life is a priceless gift to us and we should treasure it. Make a difference to another life and leave your footprints on sands of time to be remembered forever.

Know who your true friends are

The journey!

A contribution to make to humanity

Courage to do what is good.

Sanity

I realised that I really don’t know…..I f*ing don’t know!  And that’s terribly scary….

Peace of mind

Serving and loving others

SELF ESTEEM

What have you noticed?  

Money is not on the list.  :)

The formula for happiness and success

This week the Happiness and its Causes forum will be held in Sydney with a couple of speakers being Martin Seligman and Sogyal Rinpoche.  I thought this TED talk by Shawn Achor would be a good starting point for those of us who are not attending. 

Enjoy and then please share with me what thoughts came to your mind.

 

 

The rules of life: make them up

I read something today where the writer stated “All I need are the right rules and victory would be mine.”

That got me wondering about how that related to life in general.  How often do we live our lives by other people’s rules and as a consequence are unhappy, feeling like we have lost out?    This tied in with something else I had previously read by an economist about “herd economics” and how there is a tendency to position ourselves relative to the rest of the group (society) i.e., keeping up with the Joneses (KUWJ).  Basically he proposed that we are all happy enough individually but when we compare our “position in the herd” we can become dis-satisfied and start wanting more.  The economist provided an example of people paying exorbitant prices for houses (KUWJ).  I’d include people who live in certain suburbs for the prestige/ so they can send their children to the “right” schools; designer clothes; brand cars (e.g., BMW, Mercs, etc.) and etc…………..  I’m sure you get the idea.

So, that was how I got to thinking about how we can be happier by making our own rules for our lives – a sort of designer life – one that is tailor made just for you.  Now, how exclusive would that be?

“Our minds are as different as our faces: we are all travelling to one destination; –happiness; but few are going by the same road.”
Charles Caleb Colton

Just imagine what it would be like to live a life made especially for YOU – it would be unique, your very own life that no-one else has, made to your own specifications. You decide what you want.  If you are in a relationship and/or have a family, it will be designed for the relationship/family, where you all get together and make up the rules (yes, include the children – it’s amazing what they come up with)

There is so much in this world to experience and so many of us that there is really no right or wrong way for YOUR designer life. 

What do you want your life to look like?

Where will you be living?

How often do you want to travel?

Where in the world do you want to experience?

Who do you want to experience it with?

What books do you want to read?

What else do you want to see, hear and feel?

How much more time do you want with your family/friends/loved ones?

What would you like to do more of with them?

If you had a bank that credited your account each morning with $86,400 – with no balance carried from day to day – what would you do?   Well, you do have such a bank and it’s called……time.

Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds.  Every night it rules off as “lost” whatever you have failed to use.  It carries over no balances and allows no overdrafts.   You can’t hoard it, save it, store it, loan it or invest it. You can only use it – time.   

So, I am interested to know – how will you design your life to make the best use of that 86,400 seconds to live your life as you want?

Who are you and what are you doing with your life?

I came across a list of 50 questions recently and thought I’d post some here for you to think about.

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?  If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do? 

I’d love to hear what your thoughts are on this 

Want to have a “wonder”ful life? Trust your imagination

I came across this “wonder”ful talk by Janet Echelman on TED and would like to share it with you

Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.” Albert Einstein

Life: What’s stopping you?

Often the only thing or person stoppping us from getting anyway in life is ourselves.  We can decide to be full of self doubt or we can go ahead and live the life we want.  One way to deal with doubt is to reframe it as an UNAUTHORISED PERSON

A little while ago I asked the following question to several people.  See if you can pick who had kept the unauthorised person OUT.

What do dream about changing in your life, and what is stopping you?

  • I dream about robust physical health, becoming a fitness model, improving my financial situation, going back to school, investing in a long term relationship, a little bit of travel and visiting my grandmother every day.
    What is holding me back or stopping me?
    Doubt and bad thinking. It is also a bit of feeling that I do not deserve the good in life. I am relegated to where I am right now without there ever being any movement.
  • I dream of having a job right now. The economy at large is a factor in the process.
  •  Actually, when imagination improves my life, the dream stops it.
  •  I have already started to change my life by setting large goals with mini-goals along the way. My goals are to improve my financial situation, achieve a work/life balance that allows me to enjoy my family, live a healthy lifestyle and be successful. At the beginning of the year, I took a lot of time to work out how I would achieve these and what my mini-goals are for each. As the year progresses, I find that I have checked off more than I would have if I’d “winged” it and that I have achieved plenty more that isn’t on the list. At the end of the year, I’m happy to say, I’ll be well on my way to reaching my goals. Many of my goals are mid- to long-term and I feel that I will be able to surpass them (and will have to stretch them a bit further as I get closer). “Aim for the moon and you will at least land among the stars.” (Don’t know who said it, but I believe it.)
  • I dream about becoming a world-renowned speaker and thought leader in the area of Innovation and Social Psychology. And, there is NOTHING stopping me — I’m on my way :)
  • Very timely question. I dream about changing my circumstances – being able to live comfortably and closer to my family. Being able to travel when I want to without having to worry about the finances required to do so.  What’s stopping me is the courage to just take that leap out of the plane and trust that the parachute will open
  •  My dream is work in multinational company with good salary and find Suitable girl , I think serious concern of failure makes me lose my focus: that can stop me but in general I don’t give up easily .
  • To improve my skill into the bestest that I can. Well, imagination can help to change our dreams into success but without any action nor hard work it won’t come into effect.   What is stopping me? Nothing, No one and nobody can stop me to reach my goal, only GOD’s will can help me throughout to my success.
  •  Playing it all out and become unstoppable in what I want to be!
    and, what stops me is my identity  -the belief that I am what I was, not what I am possible
  •  I always have a concern that dreaming on its own achieves nothing.  I think the key is to design what your ideal life looks like then get stuck in to looking for ways to turn that into reality.   I started designing my ideal life 10 years ago when I escaped the corporate rat race. It has returned much better results than the years I just spent dreaming about how I would like things to be.   I would encourage anyone who wants something to be different in their life to get really clear on what ideal looks like then start taking steps to make that happen. The rewards are high

So, I’m a bit curious - how are you stopping your-self and what are you going to do about it?

What nobody told you about breaking bad habits.

There is so much written about changing old habits and creating new ones.  There is also a lot of advice about how to do it and how much time it will take.  I remember reading something once where is was said that it only takes 21 days to make a new habit – really?? are you sure??? 21 days!!!. 

How many times have you started doing something, a new habit or doing something differently and even after a month, two months or even four months, you lapsed back into your old ways.  It doesn’t take much, does it?    And we all do it.  Then it is so easy to give up and not try again. 

It seems that nowadays there is so much emphasis on quick change.  And occasionally it does happen if you have a massive mind shift.   It depends on how much you want it and how much embedded it is in your unconscious mind.  Mostly, it takes time. The other day I was reading a book** I have had for a long time on yoga.  Now I am a bit of a long term on & off yoga person – I started it when I was about 12 and if you really want to know the truth, I’m more off than on – yes, I haven’t made it a habit yet.  Anyway, in the book I came across an explanation of the yogic cycles of time and the specific cycles of time it takes to change old habits and create new ones.  So here it is:

To change an old habit into a new positive one – 40 days

To confirm the new habit in you – 90 days

To allow the habit to become who you are – 120 days

To ensure that you have mastered the habit – 1,000 days

Well, I don’t know about you but I felt much better when I read that.  I realise now that it is fine to feel like wanting to relapse after a month or two or even three – it is actually normal.

A lot of people put themselves down when they resume an old habit after a few months but looking at the yogic cycles, it will take about 6 months to entrench the new habit into you AND approximately 2 years and 9 months years to master that new habit.  21 days does NOT a habit make.

It’s OK to experience feelings of wanting to give up, it is normal to feel like that. The trouble is that so many of us do just that – we give up, and too early according to the yogic cycles.  The easy way is to accept that you feel like giving up, but don’t buy into that feeling; think of it as hmm…. just like that chair over there, an object that you can observe without feeling like you have to go and attach yourself to it.  I mean, come on, how stupid would you look going everywhere with a chair stuck to you.  Accept that it will take time to become the change, and to be that change, unconsciously and easily.  In other words, PUT THAT CHAIR DOWN!!

It takes more than a few grains of sand to make a beach

 

It takes more than a few floors to make a high rise

It takes more than a few drops of salt water to make an ocean

It takes more than a couple of mountains to make a mountain range

It takes more than a few dozen panels to make the Guggenheim

So too it will take more than a few weeks to create your new life. 

I’d really like to hear what you think and what your habit changing journey is like :)

**Yoga for Women, by Shakta Kuar Khalsa . Published in 2002 by Dorling Kindersley Limited, London