Today I have decided to give this space over to Di Sutton and her July newsletter (with her permission)
- Master Practitioner in Matrix Therapies
- Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Master Practitioner in Neuro Linguistic Programming
- Practitioner in Time Line Repatterning
- Certificate IV in Life Coaching
- Practitioner in Coach Mastery
- Your Quest (discovering purpose and passion)
- Matrix Therapies Advanced Training
- Matrix Constellations and Archetypes
- Co-creating the Matrix (Spiritual Program)
Quote of the month:
It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
Many people think the ultimate in life is being happy. While it is unrealistic to expect to be happy all the time, there are some strategies we can use to increase the amount of time we feel happy in life. No one gets it right 100% of the time, we do the best we can.
Recently I attended a seminar conducted by Professor Timothy Sharpe from The Happiness Institute in Sydney and would like to share some of the ideas from that which I found helpful.
Positive psychology is the scientifc study of optimal human functioning. It is about people thriving and flourishing. It is more than seeking pleasure, it is about engaging in life. We can learn to be happy. Positive emotions are helpful and if we have them we are likely to build our lives and open and broaden our mind.
How can we be happy? One of the strategies is to be present. To live in the present moment. People who live in the present moment have
- health and wellbeing
- productivity and efficiency
- happiness and positive emotions
- good relationships and communication
There is very little difference in people, and the difference that makes the difference is attitude – whether it is positive or negative. There are optimists and pessimists. Optimistic people have a hopefulness and confidence about the future and a successful outcome of something.
Check out The Happiness Institute website for more information: www.thehappinessinstitute.com
Tips for dealing with our ANTs (automatic negative thoughts)
Are you aware of your ANTs? (automatic negative thoughts). We all have them at times. They include:
- · Catastrophising
- · Being black and white
- · Personalising
- · Mind reading
- · Over-generalising
- · Filtering
If you cannot think of examples when you have these, I’m sure you know people who do. Such as the person who is always having dramas in their life. Nothing is simple and calm – all events are full of drama. A way to deal with our ANTs is to be flexible in our thinking and modify our thinking style to suit the context.
We can move between different thinking styles – nothing is right or wrong
4 steps to help deal with our ANTs:
- · Identify thoughts
- · Label the ANTs
- · Question/challenge unhelpful cognitions
- · Replace with more helpful, realistic ones
Ask, are my thoughts
- · Realistic
- · Take into account all the facts
- · Helpful
Can I look at things
- From a different angle
- In another way
- Is it really that bad
- Get Temporal perspective (how important will this be in 10 minutes, 10 hours, 10 days, 10 weeks’ time?)
- Alternate perspectives
- Problem solving
Discovering our top character strengths
Getting to know ourselves is crucial to living an aware life, and discovering our strengths and talents is a sure way to increase our sense of happiness.
If you would like to discover your top 24 character strengths, click on www.viasurvey.org This survey is free and once you have found your strengths, if you would like to know more about making the most of them, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org and I will send you additional information.
Please answer me by Noemi Lee
Why do you say
you “hate” happy people?
Does that mean
you hate happiness?
Why is it that
happiness is considered
to be a four letter word?
Must you always
wear a scowl
on your face?
Can’t it take
a bathroom break?
How can you expect
to find happiness
when you continue
to push it
father and farther away?
Why do you hold
such disdain for
What wrong has
done to you?
So, you mean
you’ve never had
Then, how can you
you’ve never known?
Would you like to experience more happiness in your life?
Do you behave in ways that cause unhappiness at times and don’t know where the behaviour comes from?
Are you at a stage in your life where you want change, but are not sure which direction to take?
If you would like to explore this, take advantage of a complimentary 1.5 hour coaching session with Di Sutton, Master Practitioner in Matrix Therapies and Master Practitioner in Neuro Linguistic Programming
Phone 0401 266 316
- What Stops YOU Being Happy? (happinessguru.wordpress.com)
- Classical Psychology and Nlp-neuro-linguistic Programming: (socyberty.com)