It is just an emotion, nothing else. It’s not real, not tangible like a chair that you may be sitting on for instance. It is made up by our minds.
And where does it come from, the future or the past? Well, while we can be fearful of something that has yet to happen, it actually comes from the past. Fear – can you have it right now in this moment? Not unless you are experiencing something at this very moment like seeing a great big hairy spider coming at you (oops – I just checked under my table – I have a BIG spider phobia) or are expecting something to happen.
For what reason would you choose to experience fear in the present moment unless you thought that something you were scared of was about to happen, or that you were worried about something happening? (Notice that I said “choose” and yes, even me with my arachnophobia). We only have fear about something because it reminds us of something in the past. Maybe a movie we saw, or something we had already experienced. I’ll give an example, and not about spiders. When I was a young child I wasn’t used to dogs. One day my family visited a friend of my mother’s who had a Great Dane – now you know how big those dogs are!! Well, as we were walking along I remember being “chased” by the dog. It was probably only just running up to greet us but as a very small child I was terrified and ran, which I think only made it worse. From that time I loathed dogs, even little ones and it took many, many years before I was able to go near one. Fear is a future based emotion because we are worried about something that MAY happen in the future, but it is grounded in the past.
The future is not certain. Think about something specific that happened yesterday. Did it happen? Are you certain? Yesterday I hung the washing on the line before I went for my morning walk. I know that for certain. (And yes, I DID remember to bring it in later)
Nothing in the future is certain. When we choose to experience fear we are providing ourselves with a feeling of certainty.
Isn’t it strange that we often choose to feel such an unresourceful emotion when there is no need for that emotion? What would it be like if, instead, we choose to feel something else? It can be a bit tricky to stop feeling fear based emotions so, to begin with, learning to feel detached and just observing the emotion can help. The next time you feel fear about something in the future ask yourself:
Where am I feeling it?
What am I telling myself?
What can I replace it with?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this
- Five Ways To Step Through Fear and Embrace Life More Freely (mysoulfulhealing.wordpress.com)
- What’s Your Biggest Fear? (sabutterfly.wordpress.com)
- The Only Thing We Have To Fear (figuringoutfulfillment.wordpress.com)
- Find a place inside where there’s joy. (laurierohner.wordpress.com)